Tuesday, 27 August 2013

Are we really dignified?

'Are we really dignified?' This question often pops up in my mind when I look at a few crack heads who behave oddly when they are surrounded by a group of people. I witness such kind of behavior in my day to day life where I come across a bunch of individuals behaving in different ways. Few of those are really irritating, for example, talking in a louder tone interrupting others' conversation, mocking others using harsh words, honking horn continuously in traffic, spitting on the road, interrupting others while they're speaking, not switching off the mobile phones in silent zone, likewise I can list out many things. These are the basic entities that should be taken care of by an individual. When people try to implement such 'not to do' things, it creates nothing but irritation to people like me (yes, I get irritated more often). 

There is nothing wrong in practicing things that doesn't harm a fellow human being and in the same way implementing those in day to day life will not only fetch you dignity in the society but also avoids the cause of irritation among the fellow individuals. In my previous article No one to blame but yourself, I would have mentioned something like - 'Rules are meant to be followed not to be broken. They are just rules and not ‘death defying stunts’. Make a habit to follow those and I’m sure that it will cause you no harm.' Likewise these basic rules of life aren't tough to implement and following those doesn't cause you any harm. As an individual, one should be aware of these basic manners (found this while browsing through some websites), which I have listed below, and try to implement it in your daily life.
  • Put your cell phones in silent mode or better turn it off whenever you're in silent zone (like hospitals, class rooms, temples, etc).
  • Talk softly when you're among a bunch of people such that your conversation doesn't disturb or distract others.
  • When asking for something, say "Please."
  • When receiving something, say "Thank you."
  • The world is not interested in what you dislike. Keep negative opinions to yourself, or between you and your friends.
  • When people ask you how you are, tell them and then ask them how they are.
  • When you make a phone call, introduce yourself first and then ask if you can speak with the person you are calling.
  • Be appreciative and say "thank you" for any gift you receive. In the age of e-mail, a handwritten thank-you note can have a powerful effect.
  • Never use foul language in front of others. Most of the people already know all those words, and they find them boring and unpleasant.
  • Even if a play or a meeting is boring, sit through it quietly and pretend that you are interested. The performers and presenters are doing their best.
  • If you bump into somebody, immediately say "Excuse me."
  • Knock on closed doors, and wait to see if there's a response, before entering.
  • Cover your mouth when you cough or sneeze, and don't pick your nose in public.
  • As you walk through a door, look to see if you can hold it open for someone else.
  • If you come across someone working on something, ask if you can help. If they say "yes," do so -- you may learn something new.
  • When someone asks you for a favor, do it without grumbling and with a smile.
  • Don't reach for things at the table; ask to have them passed.
The reason for me to pen this article is I just wanted to share my experience/ view/ whatever with the virtual world. I'm neither here to compel anyone to follow those above mentioned rules nor to highlight an individual's mistake. I personally feel that if people (those crack heads) start following these basic manners, I'm sure they'll attain a dignified position in the society or else they'll remain as crack heads forever getting criticized by irritated people like me.


  1. Hari OM
    A highly commendable post Ashwin! As a Westerner in India, you have hit the mark on a few basics here that I have found lacking even amongst the folk on the ashram and it astounds me because they are otherwise fine people... other's have said it is just the Indian way - but I refuse to accept that as I have met many such as yourself who have complete and perfect manners!

    Keep setting the example dear fellow - that is the best way. YAM xx

    1. I agree with you. Most of the people who behave badly fail to admit it and they just cover themselves by saying 'it's just the Indian way'.
      Anyways, thanks for reading..

  2. These are some key points taught in school itself but many people forget them after coming out of school. It may be that they are lazy to implement or the their attitude of " who cares "

    1. in fact i picked these points up from an article titled '25 manners every kid must follow'.. it's surprising to see grown ups failing to adapt what they've learnt as a kid.

  3. very true.. such people with their don't care attitude badly need a change from within.. many times i have wondered if they are plainly ignorant or are they one of those highly know-it-all kind? good post, Ashwin. :)

    1. People whom i came across neither fall into the category 'plainly ignorant' nor into 'know-it-all'.. i personally feel like those crack heads are trying to grab others' attention by behaving in an awkward way :P

  4. Nice post, have to completely agree with your simple and easy to follow rules, I wrote a similar post not too long ago - http://mahabore.wordpress.com/2013/08/22/a-letter-to-a-stranger/

    Do read and let me know your thoughts